It’s all over: An insider confirms the end of Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck’s marriage, with the most recent mistake being attributed to the singer. (video) – Full video below

Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck are dealing with a lengthy round of breakup rumors that—much like the film Gigli—have left everyone shocked and confused. Between reports claiming they’re no longer living together, paparazzi pics of them looking perfectly happy, J.Lo’s sudden tour cancelation (more on that below), and blurry images of Ben without his wedding ring, we are living through uncertain times. So naturally, we’ve gathered all the available info in one place to make sense of it.

This has been confirmed by multiple sources and in multiple outlets. First, TMZ reported on May 16 that Ben has been staying at a Brentwood home all by himself. This was confirmed by Us Weekly later that same day, and then on May 19, an Entertainment Tonight source claimed, “They have been staying in separate homes and the tension has been high.”

On May 28, an Us Weekly source said they communicate “primarily to discuss essential matters and updates.” Then on June 28, People reported that Ben was “moving his belongings” out of their home. And most recently, on July 27, TMZ reported that Ben had purchased a $20.5 million home…which he bought on J.Lo’s birthday.

J.Lo Is Still Wearing Her Ring
Here she is on May 17 (divorce headlines were dominating the news cycle at this point) visibly wearing her ring in front of paparazzi photographers while smiling.

But Ben Has Been Spotted Without His Ring
Ben was seen without his ring on May 17 (the same day this first photo of Jen ^^ was taken) in images published by TMZ. But his ring was back on his finger just two days later on May 19.

J.Lo Canceled Her Entire Tour Amid the Rumors
On May 31, Jen announced that she was canceling her entire This Is Me…Live tour because she is “taking time off to be with her children, family and close friends.”

Writing about the decision to scratch the tour, the singer wrote, “I am completely heartsick and devastated about letting you down. Please know that I wouldn’t do this if I didn’t feel that it was absolutely necessary. I promise I will make it up to you and we will all be together again. I love you all so much. Until next time…”

They’re Officially Selling Their House
The pair publicly listed their home for sale despite Jen’s wishes to do so under the radar. According to TMZ, their asking price is $68 million, which could potentially be a loss due to the amount of work and renovations they put into it.

A source dished to Us Weekly that Jennifer is allegedly “distraught” by the situation, saying, “She wants to sell their house off-market to try and get less attention surrounding it. Ben doesn’t care about the negative attention. He’s been through this before and it doesn’t faze him.” The source also revealed that Bennifer “can’t get on the same page [and] have been discussing divorce as an option.”